Seating Guide

*Pointer*   Make sure the seating capacity of your room can accommodate your maximum number of guests.

To begin, go through your list and separate out your younger guests. Your youngest guests may prefer to be seated with their parents, while those in-betweens may prefer to have a table just for themselves.

Then consider whether your B’nai Mitzvah child would prefer all their guests at one large table*, or do they prefer that they are seated at rounds? Consult with your caterer or party planner for guidance about how best to seat these guests at one long table.

When you begin to divide your adult guests into tables of 8 – 12, guests are often separated into relatives, neighbors, sports coaches, teachers and those others often end up filling in.

Consider a slightly different approach and mix your guests up a bit. Perhaps your family and friends share a common link, such as profession or interest and seating them together would be a refreshing change than a night out with the same crowd.

If you have relatives that don’t get along, then don’t expect them to the day of your event. Ask them each to be the social director of their table and make introductions and get the conversation going.

TABLE SIZES Consider bringing in additional shapes and sizes

Table Size Seats Notes
36in Round 4 guests These are generally cocktail rounds and can be
used in the cocktail area or around the
bar as unassigned seating.
48in Round 6 guests
60in Round or
5′ Square
8-10 guests
72in Round or
6′ Square
10-12 guests
6ft Long 6-8 guests Long tables are often joined together side by side
to form larger teen tables. Plan on 2ft per guest per
side and one guest on each end of the long table.
Your caterer and party planner should be familiar with
teen seating options and suggest table layouts to fit
your number of teen guests.
8ft Long 8-10 guests


  • Place yourself (the hostess) at the head table if you are having one, or central to the dance floor and central to all of your guests.
  • Place your elder guests away from the speakers, preferably towards the buffet and bar, while placing your fun loving crowd by the music.
  • Place your teens along one side of the dance floor or along the back of the dance floor.
  • Remember, there is no way you’ll keep everyone happy. Some people think sitting on top of the band is the worst! Others think sitting on top of the band means you have the best seats in the house. So why worry? No one will be happy anyway!


Once you have determined who is seated where, assign each table a number or table name. If you are using a calligrapher, get this information to them in plenty of time.

Remember that there will always be changes the last few days prior to the event. Again, ask your calligrapher how she wants to handle the last minute drop-outs and drop-ins.


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